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9. Crisis I

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Triumph Over Tragedy

Crisis—I

 

 

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“FROM TRAGEDY TO TRIUMPH”

Crisis

 

 

 

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Double Trouble: A Tornado Strikes Twice

 

 

 

Tom and his family were enjoying the arrival of spring in Indiana, USA, on a peaceful afternoon. Suddenly darkness filled the family room. From outside they heard a noise like an approaching locomotive. Looking out the window, Tom shouted, “Run to the car! A tornado is coming!” The family raced out of the house, jumped into the car and anxiously sped down the country road. Looking back, one of the children screamed, “Daddy, it’s going to hit us!” Making a quick decision, Tom swerved left onto a narrow lane.

 

While desperately trying to outrun the tornado, they met a rooftop that landed directly in their path. It didn’t hit the car but acted as a ramp instead, sending the car flying into the air and crashing to the ground, jolting everyone inside. Although no one was hurt, everyone was in a state of shock. The tornado had passed. Shaken but safe, they realized that God had protected them.

 

They regained composure and started for home, thankful to be alive. While driving home, they were alarmed at the havoc they saw everywhere around them: friends’ homes destroyed, lumber scattered in the fields and sticking out of the ground like toothpicks. Arriving at home, they found shocking devastation. The only intact objects of their home were a swing in the tree and a bathtub in the yard.

 

Then another tornado hit—their emotional tornado—numbness, disbelief, pain, and fear of the future. They faced the most tremendous crisis of their lives. Even though no one in the family suffered injury or death, they were shaken emotionally. Their house and all their possessions were gone. Reality hit, and now they had to take action.

 

What is a crisis?

 

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DEFINITION: A crisis is a decisive moment. It is a turning point for an individual, family or group. The word crisis comes from the Greek krinein, meaning “to decide.”

 

 

A crisis contains four elements: (1) a sudden upsetting event that threatens you physically, emotionally, relationally, or financially; (2) a vulnerable state of stress or fatigue; (3) a precipitating factor with the last-straw stressor pushing you over the edge; and (4) the final state of crisis, in which you feel helpless and threatened. This final state is a time of choice, in which you must decide how to react.

 

Perhaps you can identify with the shock, numbness, pain, and anger felt by Tom and his family after the tornado. Perhaps you are going through your own personal tornado—be it physical, financial, parental, or some other type. Loneliness and disappointment may be engulfing you. The purpose of this chapter is to help you move toward hope, help, and peace.

 

We want to offer you tools, skills, and coping strategies to transport you from tragedy to triumph. We offer you not only hope but help for your own tornado. All the trials we go through prepare us for future trials.

 

In this chapter we are emphasizing personal crisis. In a later chapter we will look at global crisis. But for any crisis, whether personal or global, it is crucial for our health and emotions to have coping skills and to know how to find inner strength to recover from the tragedy. Learning how to cope in such cases is crucial for our health and emotions. We need inner strength.

 

Winston Churchill encouraged in the people of England during World War II as they faced invasion from the Nazis. His words still ring true today when we struggle with a crisis.

 

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“Never give in—never, never, never, never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense!”

Winston Churchill speaking during World War II on 29 October 1941

 

 Fight on, no matter what the storms of life bring. We are to live ten minutes at a time doing the best that we can do. We take our crisis to God. He is an ever-present help during times of stress. We are not alone.

 

As long as there is life, there will be crises. Traumatic and stressful times are no respecters of persons, wealth, age, or status. They come in all sizes, shapes, and forms. They include death, broken relationships, unwanted pregnancies, unemployment, divorce, and poor health. And there are others like Alzheimer’s disease, accidents, alcohol and drug abuse, catastrophic disease, death of a pet, suicide in the family, being falsely accused, imprisonment, and more. Have any of these happened recently to you or to a close friend? Remember, God is willing to walk us through the difficult times, and He always has a way to help us.

 

“Thy fate is the common fate of all;

Into each life some rain must fall.”

—Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

Life is a progression of ups and downs, mountains and valleys. If you’re having difficulties, wait awhile and something good will happen again. No one is exempt from experiencing both the good and the bad.

 

Crisis affects health

Did you know that our personal crises affect our health? Crises not handled effectively may provoke long-term stress.

 

 

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Crisis affects health

  • Estimates vary that between 75% and 90% of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress related problems[1]

 

Research indicates that excessive stress in a crisis can affect physical and emotional health. Sleep disturbance, anxiety/worry, and burnout are hazardous to health. Since negative emotions are like poison to the system, they need quick processing. The immune system suffers from them. When excessive stress-producing anxiety and depression occur, the release of two stress hormones, cortisol and noradrenalin, cause high blood pressure, heart problems, heart attacks, and strokes. Also, during stress the temptation to use alcohol and drugs may increase.

 

 

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We don’t always know why crises occur, but we know that how we handle the crisis is crucial to our health and future.

 

 

 

Facing a crisis

 

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FACING A CRISIS

Tornados hit our lives unexpectedly and so ferociously. Winds of turmoil flood our minds, twisting and smashing us about . . .

 

The first catastrophic, physical tornado is usually followed by a second tornado—this one an emotional whirlwind. Tornadoes hit our lives unexpectedly and ferociously. Winds of turmoil flood our minds, twisting and smashing us about. We seem to be pushed where we don’t want to go. A whirlwind of confusion paralyzes us, and we feel unable to move—a best friend is severely beaten; a struggling father is falsely accused; a single mother loses her job. Maybe your home has been destroyed by fire or your only car has been wrecked and you have no transportation to your job. Or a drive-by shooting struck a neighbor’s precious three-year-old. In numbness you scream, “I can’t handle this!” The mind twists and turns. You search for help but find no relief. What can you do? Where do you go?

 

Stages of coping with crisis

Have you experienced the death of a loved one or some other substantial loss in your life? It may be the loss of a wife, loss of your home, loss of a job, the loss of a breast by mastectomy, or the loss of a son who ran away from home.

 

How did you process your grief? Most individuals follow sequential steps of grieving, such as the four stages of grief or loss as outlined by John Bowlby and C. Murray Parkes.[1]

                                                                                                                      

 

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4 Steps in the Grieving Process

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·    Shock, numbness and denial

·    Searching and yearning

·    Disorganization

·    Reorganization

 

Shock, numbness and denial, the first stage, is characterized by panic. “No! This can’t be happening!” When the realization of a loss hits, there may be anger and disbelief.

 

Searching and yearning, the second stage, is characterized often by blaming of self and others. Perceptions of what should have been done differently may evoke disappointment and agony. The “if only” question is often asked with painful regret. The personal regrets just don’t want to go away, haunting the mind. During this time, God continues to be with us. He cares and suffers with us.

 

Disorganization is the third stage. The crisis has rearranged one’s world. Life becomes fragmented as one tries to come to terms with the situation. Personal confusion, depression, guilt and anger swirl inside. During this stage you need to acknowledge that you feel emotionally disturbed. In times of intense crisis it is even normal for a person to feel as if they are “losing their mind.” Good friends, prayer, study of the Scriptures, and a close relationship with God are good anchor points in times of perplexity and readjustment.

 

Reorganization, the fourth stage, comes bit by bit with time as the conflict resolves. Ask yourself, What can I do about this and where can I go for help? Sort through your options. As you take action, your security increases. When your coping skills improve, your sense of competency builds. You see “light at the end of the tunnel.” Order begins to return. You accept reality. Life goes on, and you are wiser, stronger, and more understanding.

 

There is no single right way of going through the grieving process. People often go back and forth between the stages as they work though the crisis of a loss. Grieving takes time—weeks, months. We continue on and work toward finding a healthy resolution with acceptance of the past. God is ready and able to help us deal with the loss and gives us the strength for the day and help for tomorrow.

 

Millie says, “It was difficult to go beyond the pain of my brother George’s death. There was not only grief because he was no longer with us but also my heart ached because I regretted not spending more time with him both on the morning of his surgery and several days before then. I arrived at the hospital just as they were about to roll him into the operating room. The surgery schedule had been changed to an earlier time. He passed away the following day, never regaining consciousness. The pain of regret was agonizing and prolonged. I finally had to ask God to help me process it so I could go on with my life in a healthy way. And He did.”

 

Among the lessons we can learn during the grieving process is this one: When those we really care about are seriously ill, in the hospital, or going to have surgery, treat them as though they will still live a long life, but be prepared to think that life will end today. Then there will be fewer regrets to add to the grieving process should they die. Handling death is easier when we have done all we possibly can for the person we love before death. Then there is often no sense of guilt after death.

 

What helps us handle crisis pain?

Death is usually the greatest crisis that we face in our families, but only one among many.

 

 

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When individuals go through an excruciating crisis, they begin to search for spiritual power to help them through it. At first they may be angry at God and ask, “Where was God when my child was abducted and killed?”

 

 

There is evil in this world because of the choices wicked people make. However, we don’t suffer alone. God suffers the pain right along with us. He hates kidnapping, abduction, murder, rape, disaster, cancer, and illness even more than we do. He is there beside us and helps us bear the burden. These atrocities are not from God but are the work of the evil one.

 

Our personal feelings at the time of a crisis are overwhelming no matter who we are—old or young, rich or poor. Sharing feelings is nature’s way of healing. We need to express feelings. Held-in feelings can lead to physical and emotional problems. And, yes, it is OK to cry: men, boys, anyone who hurts. Crying is part of the healing process.

           

 

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What do you do when a crisis invades you life?

 

 

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Hints for moving through crisis

Initially, survivors need to:

  1. Take things one day at a time.
  2. Avoid using alcohol, medications or drugs to mask the pain.
  3. Try to keep up basic hygiene. Put a good face to the world with basic grooming.
  4. Talk to others, especially those who have lived through and survived similar experiences.

 

 

 

 

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  1. Remember healthy coping strategies you have used to survive past challenges. Draw upon these inner strengths and skills again.[1]  In addition to these, we would suggest:
  2. Write down or journal your feelings. This releases the stressful emotions that are pent up in your mind.
  3. Read the Bible and look for promises to give you strength and hope for the day.
  4. Join a grief recovery support group, or read a book on the topic.

 

 

 

 

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  1. Work toward maintaining a daily routine.  Get your daily exercise, eat at regular times nutritious fruits, vegetables and whole grains, try to sleep eight hours per day, drink six to eight glasses of water, and go outdoors into the fresh air and sunshine. Walk down some of nature’s pathways and feel the healing touch of natural remedies. This will help pull you out of depression.
  2. Focus on routine things that you do well and positive things that you have done in past times.
  3. Eliminate sugar from your diet.
  4. Choose to think of the positive, the uplifting, and the humorous.

 

 

Prescription:

  • Make a list of things for which you are thankful.
  • Do something for someone less fortunate than you, and pray for them.
  • Remember that God is the Restorer.

 

 

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Remember, in life we are givers and receivers. Today we may be lending a helping hand with someone else. Tomorrow they may be helping us through our crisis.

 

 

 

Taking control of a crisis takes action on one’s part. What can I do about it? Where do I go for help? How can I take control of my feelings so I am at peace and not damaging my personal health? How can my religious faith help me in this situation?

 

In helping children in crisis, remember that children have fears. A child living in the inner city asked, “When am I going to be stabbed or shot?” and “When will they take Mom and Dad away from us?”

 

Some suggestions for parents/caretakers of children in crisis are:

  • Turn off the television if the disaster is in the news.
  • Encourage the child to express feelings. Listen!
  • Make new plans for the future.
  • Impress upon the child that you are always there to help.
  • Incorporate much physical contact—hugs, cuddles, touch.
  • Send children back to school and to usual activities.
  • Provide professional counseling.

 

CRISES OF LIFE

There are so many crises in life—more than we deserve, want, or need. We will mention only a few, such as suicide, divorce, and cancer, but there are many more that are very painful.

 

Suicide family crisis

Every year many people die from suicide, leaving behind family and friends who experience the most severe forms of grief and remorse. Each year 30,000 people in the United States die by suicide.[2] Suicide is usually precipitated by a hurt or disappointment. Suicide is more likely when a person is hungry or fatigued.

 

Regardless of our problems, our lives are valuable. With God’s help, we can search for help and a way through our problems.

 

Divorce and separation crisis

One of the greatest crises in modern families is divorce. At epidemic proportions, it brings great pain to family members. Today your spouse is your best friend and lover, and tomorrow he/she has walked out of your life, leaving you numb, disbelieving, and lonely.

 

 

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Some of the losses that the family suffers in a divorce crisis are:

  • Loss of the dream—hopes dashed
  • Loss of parenting role
  • Loss of total, whole family
  • Redefinition of family
  • Loss of friends, business associates
  • Loss of money and property
  • Loss of attachment—nostalgic feeling of having belonged.
  • Mutual friends have to choose where their loyalty is.

 

 

 

Women facing a divorce in the U.S. face a 30 percent average decline in their standard of living. Men struggle to maintain two households instead of one.[3] Divorce is a traumatic crisis. Side effects include added responsibilities and decreased free time.

 

Some of the greatest pain comes from relationship losses in the family. Good people hurt good people. Family members hurt family members. We desire emotional healing, but it is often difficult when personalities are so different and wants are so big and misunderstandings so gigantic. If you want freedom from emotional pain, begin a healing process for the mind by taking the first step. It’s called forgiveness.

 

No marriage is perfect. All married couples have to work at the relationship to make it a beautiful and satisfying experience that lasts a lifetime. Marriage is actually a processing and polishing place in life. In marriage we learn unselfishness, and later we appreciate that learning. For some, it seems that they choose divorce with all its crisis pain over having to undergo the polishing and character-improving pain in two peoples’ lives.

 

Loss of a pet

 

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For some people, the loss of a beloved pet is a painful crisis.

 

 

Pets are an important part of many families. Children, teens, and even their parents and grandparents have their beloved Curly dog, Fluffy kitten, Charlie the bird, or Dumpy the hamster, who are a significant part of their world. Pets are a source of love, companionship, and acceptance. They bring joy and comfort to their owners.

 

Sad to say, the cuddly—or not so cuddly—animal friend’s longevity is not as lengthy as their masters’ and the inevitable happens—it dies. The family is devastated. One woman said, “Am I crazy to hurt so much?” A painful crisis hits those who love their pets as a family member. It is normal for children and adults to hurt when their pet companion dies. Comfort children at this time of loss with lots of understanding hugs. Cry, talk out loud, walk, or tell others about the pet. Thank God for the privilege of having your pet.

 

Crisis and emotional depression

Cindy plunged into a black hole of marital despair. She could not cope with the stresses of life and soon tuned out. No matter what she did, it was not right. Bill seemed insensitive to her needs and treated her weakness with contempt and indifference. The rejection of her husband turned this lovely person into a depressed, unhappy wife who had given up on the marriage, family, and others. She felt rejected and unappreciated—of no value. It was a crisis time for the family.

 

The church pastor visited Cindy’s husband about her discouraged and depressed state. He gave Bill some suggestions for bringing emotional healing to his wife. The prescription: Think of ten to fifteen things that you appreciate about your wife. Then thank God for those qualities in your prayers. Bill was willing to give it a try, especially since their marriage was fast deteriorating. He began thinking of things he appreciated about Cindy and thanked God for those qualities. He focused on the positives and not on the things that irritated him. Then Bill began to tell Cindy some of the things on his list. Bill’s attitude and behavior started changing toward Cindy, and she, who felt so unimportant, started returning to her sweet and loving ways.

 

Remember,

  • Everyone gets depressed from time to time.
  • Crisis can trigger depression.
  • Depression is linked to chemical imbalance in the brain.
  • Being unappreciated and criticized can trigger depression.
  • Careful attention to exercise, nutrition, sleep, and drinking sufficient water can help you pull out of depression.
  • It’s best to think of the positive, the uplifting, the humorous.
  • For prolonged or deep depression, seek medical attention.

 

How strong families handle crisis

Strong families respond well to crisis. They have the ability to see something positive in every situation. . . . and they join together to face crisis head on.[4]  They seem to be more resilient.

 

 

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Nick Stinnett reports that in crisis, strong families

  1. Pull together
  2. Get help
  3. Use spiritual resources
  4. Open channels/communicate
  5. Go with the flow.[1]

 

 

In healthy families, everyone reaches out to do what they do best. They hold a hand, read the Scriptures, say a prayer, do the dishes, baby-sit, or give money. They don’t ask, “What can I do?” but pitch in to help and support the family. They take the attitude that they are in the crisis together, for better or for worse.

 

In normal circumstances we have things under control, but in times of crisis we need someone to help us. Sometimes we are givers; other times we are receivers. Caring friends and family often volunteer assistance. Also, our local communities have crisis specialists to help. Religious leaders, counselors, and other support groups offer assistance. Don’t be afraid to ask.  It is said that a problem shared is divided, a happiness shared is multiplied. How true! Unfortunately, many people are unequipped to deal with the worst that life throws at them.

 

A young man was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. He craved his wife’s support. When she walked into the hospital room, he eagerly turned toward her. His expectant expression turned to one of despair as she took off her wedding ring and placed it on the hospital tray. In her hand she held divorce papers. Her voice was cold: “I want a divorce. Sign here.” She then walked out of his life, leaving him all alone to face his pain.

 

How and why would a woman do this at a time like this? Perhaps her love was conditional—forgetting the “in sickness and health” clause in the wedding vows. Maybe she could love him if he were well and could make her happy. Maybe she had another lover waiting in the wings. Most likely she just couldn’t cope with the trauma of his terminal illness.

 

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Think of a crisis you or your family experienced.

What was the most painful part of the crisis?

What helped the most during your recovery time?

 

A young woman became pregnant, but the father of the unborn baby abandoned her. Sometime later she met an outstanding man who wanted to marry her. She had to tell him that she was pregnant. He accepted her situation and said he would consider the little one as though it were his own. The couple were married. When baby Annie was born, in shock and dismay they found the little girl was badly deformed. Some of her abdominal organs were outside the body. Extensive surgeries followed.

 

At home, the baby required constant care. Members of their faith community rallied around the family in their dire need, and caregivers came in to minister lovingly to the little one. The struggle for life continued for weeks but was finally lost. The day of the funeral, the church was packed and tears of sympathy flowed freely from a loving faith community that had harnessed all its spiritual resources to support a bereaved little family.

 

God says to us, “The past is past; now move forward into your next phase of life. I will be with you.”

 

Cancer—a catastrophic family crisis

There are many crises that humanity faces daily. One big catastrophic personal and family crisis is cancer.

 

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Cancer—Catastrophic Family Crisis

  • Cancer is a dreaded catastrophic disease that not only is an individual problem but brings whole families into a whirlwind of pain.

 

 

The American National Cancer Institute reports in 2008 there were an estimated 12.7 million cases of cancer diagnosed and 7.6 million deaths from cancer around the world.[5] It is emotionally and physically devastating to hear the solemn laboratory report, “The diagnosis is cancer.” You may have heard those dreadful words. Are you facing a catastrophic crisis? Don’t give up—keep fighting for life.

 

Think of how many individuals in a family will be in crisis mode as a result of one person contracting this dreadful disease. Then multiply this crisis by hundreds of thousands who will be drawn into the center of this tornado-like crisis. The best case is that friends and family will be led to think seriously of what they can do through healthy lifestyle choices to prevent becoming victims of the same dreaded disease. Meanwhile, however, they must cope and face the crisis with the family.

 

A crisis can change you

One is often changed into a better person after going through a loss or a difficult time. When Millie was diagnosed with large B-cell lymphoma in her stomach, the chemotherapy for cancer had multiple negative side effects—pneumonia, a blood clot, three simultaneous bacterial infections, a fever of 105 degrees, frequent fainting, and more. She was finally free of cancer, but then surgeons removed half her stomach due to a tightening band around the stomach.

 

 

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While Millie was recovering from surgery, a lack of balance contributed to a fall, resulting in a broken hip. During chemotherapy, she lost her hair and her singing voice, lost her hearing three times, and lost strength in her fingers and toes. But God was good. After eighty-three days in four hospitals, Millie came out a better person, praising God for restoring her life and bringing her back from the brink of the grave. Her church friends call her a living miracle. They didn’t think she would make it. Her thankfulness overflows to God, to her husband John, her doctors, family, and praying friends. Now she visits and brings joy and hope to other critically ill persons. She has learned to walk again and tries to walk a mile or more daily.

 

The family is closer than ever, and Millie, the co-author of the WIN! Wellness program, thanks God that she has been saved to serve. She loves God more than ever and thanks Him for the trial of cancer. After enduring her own personal crisis, today she is a new and different person with lots of energy for serving the Lord.

 

Difficult times draw us closer to God. We learn to know God better, and His promises take on fresh meaning.

 

 

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  • One of God’s promises in the Bible for those in crisis is:

“Praise be to the Lord, to God our Savior, who daily bears our burdens.”[1]

 

           

 

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  • “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”[1]

 

                                                                 

 

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“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you.”  Isaiah 43:2

 

 

What do you do when a crisis invades your life? It is commonly believed that when a person is doing right, he or she won’t have problems. Many believers think that those who trust in God will have an easier road. Is this true, or is it a myth? Let’s look at the Word of God to learn what it says about crises.

 

 

                                                                 

 

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Joseph and the sixteen-year crisis

 

Joseph was only seventeen when his brothers sold him into slavery.[6] Misfortune seemed to pursue him, yet he moved from tragedy to triumph.

 

Because Joseph’s father doted on him, his half-brothers were intensely jealous of him. They schemed to get rid of him. In one day Joseph went from pampered son to a dejected slave. He was thrown into a pit and then sold to Ishmaelite slave traders. As the caravan made its way south, Joseph could see the hills that sheltered his father’s tents growing fainter and fainter. Bitterly he cried with grief and fear. What would his future hold? His only source of comfort was Jehovah, his father’s God. In the midst of his despair, Joseph committed himself to God and asked the Keeper of Israel to be with him in his unknown future.

 

For Joseph, the tornado struck twice. His journey led him to a wealthy home, where his integrity earned him respect. Joseph was entrusted with the management of his master’s house. One day, while his master was away, the lady of the house tried to seduce him. He fled from her presence. In her humiliation and anger at his refusal, she falsely accused Joseph of attempted rape. He was thrown into prison. Even in this crisis he did not abandon his God or his principles.

 

Years went by. In prison he prospered again, gaining the trust of the warden and inmates. But he was forgotten by those whom he had helped. For sixteen years, Joseph was to know hardship and sorrow. Yet he never wavered from his decision to serve God. His action in crisis and ultimate triumph is a model of how we can deal with crisis in our lives. Like Joseph, we can move from tragedy to triumph.

 

We may not always have a choice in what happens to us, but we can choose how we will react. Bad things do happen to good people. Circumstances need not determine our destiny. Whatever betides us, we can be faithful in good times and in bad times.

                                                                 

 

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Like Joseph, we can choose to remain faithful to God, committed to our family, and forgiving of those who have wounded us.

 

 

Are you in a crisis?

At this time you may be facing a traumatic crisis. It may be that your mother has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, your innocent son faces a prison sentence, you are jobless after years of service to your company, your beloved daughter is on drugs, your marriage is crumbling, your best friend is at the point of death, or your bank account is close to zero. Whatever your trial, tell God about it. He cares, and He will strengthen you, give you peace, and help you through it.

                                                                 

 

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Father God, I come to Your glorious throne room in Your sanctuary with my struggles and needs. Thank You that when there is a crisis, You are there. I hear You saying to me, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you with my righteous right hand,”[1] so I claim strength, courage, mercy, and help in life’s difficult situations.

 

 

 

 

                                                                 

 

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My thoughts go to loved ones and friends who are going through crises. Help them to know there is no limit to Your power and to Your storehouse of blessings. Jesus, Thank You that Your death made it possible to end the crisis of sin and suffering.

 

 

           

 

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 We accept that You have the ultimate answer and will transport us from tragedy to triumph. I believe You will do something special in answer to this prayer. You have thousands of ways to help. Thank You for what You are doing and are going to do. Amen.

 

 

Reflect/Discuss

 

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Group Discussion

1.   As individuals and families, do you think we will face more crises or fewer crises in the future? Why do you think so? What kind of future crises do you anticipate?

 

 

 

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  1. Why do you think we have crises in our lives? Can some good come out of a personal crisis?
  2. How can we develop crisis-coping skills?

 

 

 

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  1. Have you ever had a personal or family crisis that you know God helped you move through and heal you from? If so, share. In what ways did God help you to recover?

 

Personal Reflections

 

 

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Personal Reflections

When I go through a major crisis, will I end up better or bitter? Why? What will make the difference?

 

 

 

 

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Are friends important in a time of crisis? Why? Recall  how a friend or family member helped in a crisis moment. What opportunities have I had to help others as they faced a crisis?

 

 

 

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Do I choose to let God help me when I am battered by the storms of life? Why?

 

 

 

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How to prepare for a crisis:

___1. Ask God for specific help in your spiritual journey.

___2. Rely on God’s promises.

 

 

 

 

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___3. Study how others handled difficult crises in their lives.

__4. Make friends that you can help in difficult times or who will be there for you when you need them.

 

 

 

 Intentionality

r I will journal/write God a prayer telling Him about my crisis and needs.

r I know emotional healing takes time.

r  I will try to look for the positive and move forward slowly.

r  I accept reality and will take action but will not make big decisions immediately.

r When discouraged, I will think of five good things in my life, record them, and thank God for them.

r Tomorrow I will write five more blessings and will continue for a week, daily recording God’s blessings to me.

r I will ask God for help and tell Him about His promises recorded in the Bible for me and claim them for myself. I believe that He will help me with my concerns.

r I will think about joining a grief recovery group.

r I will express my feelings with someone I trust to release my stress and will ask for advice.

 

Handling present crisis

How am I handling the crisis of ______________________________?

 

Crisis Healing Steps

 

While in a crisis, record your crisis steps of progress

Prayer

 

 

Bible Promises

 

 

Received Help

 

 

Self Care

 

 

 

 

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“From Tragedy to Triumph”

The End

 



[1]. John Bowlby and C. Murray Parkes, “Separation and Loss Within the Family,” in The Child in His Family; The International Yearbook of Child Psychiatry and Allied Professions, E. J. Anthony and C. Koupernik, eds. (New York: John Wiley, 1970), 197–216.

[2] Mental Health America, 2012.  www.nmha.org/go/suicide. Retrieved 03-12-2012.

[3] Institute for Heart Centered Resolution, December 10, 2010.  www.divorcecoaching.com/articles/the-effect-of-divorce-on-families-husbands-wives and children.

[4] Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain, Secrets of Strong Families, (New York: Berkley Books, 1986) 125, 139.

[5] American Cancer Society, Cancer Facts & Figures 2011, 45.  www.cancer.org/Research/CancerFactsFigures/index. Retrieved 03-12-2012.

[6]   Genesis 37.

 

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