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“TRUST ME”

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There is a basic human need for trust. All of us trust something or someone. When we turn the key in the ignition of our car, we trust that the engine is going to start. When we go to see our physician, we trust that he/she is going to be able to help us. When we call the police, we trust that they will come to our assistance. If we are going down a precipice hanging onto a rope, we trust that the person at the top isn’t going to let go of the rope, and we trust that the rope isn’t going to break.

 

 

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A physician was performing a delicate operation to correct certain problems on an unborn baby. As he cut through the walls of the uterus and placenta, the unborn little one wrapped his tiny fingers around the surgeon’s finger. His heart was touched as it seemed that, even before birth, this little one trusted him. We hope that as the child grows older, there will still be a finger or a hand to hang onto.

 

 

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We learn to trust from people who are caring, responsive & sensitive to our needs.

·    Trust is a basic human need. Meeting this need will develop what psychologists call “secure attachments.”

 

Trust is a basic human need,since relationships are built on trust. Meeting this need promotes what psychologists call “secure attachments.” We learn to trust people who are caring and sensitive to our needs, who prove to be trustworthyand dependable.

 

Will it be trust or distrust?

 

 

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WILL IT BE TRUST OR MISTRUST?

Erik Erikson, famous psychologist, originated the concept of the 8 important questions to be solved in life. The first and most basic dilemma that humans need to decide is Trust or Mistrust.

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Erik Erikson, famous psychologist, originated the concept of the eight important questions to be solved in life. The first and most basic dilemma that humans need to decide is trust or distrust. Even babies and toddlers begin to trust or distrust early in life.Whom can I trust in life?Unfortunately, some conclude that they cannot trust anyone.The Random House Dictionary of the English Language defines trust as:

 

 

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Definition of TRUST

  • Trust is a reliance on a person or treatment.
  • Confidence. To commit to someone’s care for use or safekeeping.
  • Trust is an important factor in wholistic health.

 

“Certainty, belief, faith, assurance, confidence. Trust implies instinctive unquestioning belief in and reliance upon something or someone.”

 

The run-away girl from Traverse City

 

 

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“THE RUNAWAY GIRL FROM TRAVERSE CITY”

Based on Philip Yancey, What’s So Amazing About Grace?

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Karen, a teenage girl from Traverse City, Michigan, wanted freedom from her father’s authority. He had probably spoken to her about her dress, nose ring, and teen rebellion. She ran away to Detroit. At last she was free, and life in the big city was exciting. A man in a fancy car picked her up, took her to a luxury hotel, and gave her some pills that made her feel great. This man, whom we will call Mr. Cool, turned out to be a pimp and used her as a prostitute. At first, Karen enjoyed the big city and was happy about the decision she had made to leave home. A year went by, and when Karen contracted a serious infectious disease, Mr. Cool turned downright cold toward her with amazing rapidity. Suddenly she was on the street and broke. She still turned a couple poorlypaying tricks a night, but her drug habit gobbled what little money she had. Wintry blasts found her huddled on sidewalk grates. Her eyes were shadowed with dark circles. A hacking cough racked her frail frame. Sleep was elusive outdoors in dangerous Detroit.

 

One night, Karen focused on the picture of her life. Once a worldly “woman,” she sensed now that she was like a lost little girl, cold and afraid, penniless and hungry. Desperate for a fix, she began to cry. Memories of past days flooded her mind: Traverse City in May, the orchard with millions of cherry blossoms, and her dog, Goldie, dashing among the snowy trees to retrieve a tennis ball.

 

Suddenly she couldn’t understand why she had left. Her heart ached. Goldie’s not hungry like I am, she reflected. My dog’s life is better than mine! Karen wanted with all her heart to go home.

 

She made three phone calls, only to get an answering machine each time. Twice she hung up, but on the third try she left a message. “Dad, Mom, it’s me, Karen. I’ve been thinking I might come home. I can get a bus that arrives tomorrow about midnight. If I don’t find you at the station, I’ll just go on to Canada.”

 

During the long hours of the bus trip, Karen wondered: What if my folks are away? Should I have waited until I actually spoke to them? Maybe they need more time to adjust to the shock of hearing from me.

 

She thought about what she was going to say to her dad. She wanted him to know it wasn’t his fault, that she was the wrong one. Would he forgive her? She rehearsed her speech in her mind. She hadn’t apologized for anything in years.

 

The bus finally halted in front of the Traverse City station. “Fifteen minutes,” the driver crackled over the microphone. Fifteen minutes that would determine her life. She looked at herself in her compact mirror, touched up her hair and makeup. Will my parents be here?she wondered.

 

She didn’t know what she’d find in the terminal. She walked through the doors wondering if anyone would be there. What she saw was beyond her wildest expectations. Karen was greeted with a sea of party hats and noisemakers blown by familiar people. Fortyfamily members were there! Grandma, great-grandma, cousins, uncles, great aunts, brothers and sisters. A huge “Welcome Home!” sign hung across the length of the wall.

 

Her father emerged from the crowd. She began her apology with hot tears and quivering voice, “I’m sorry, Dad. I—”

 

“Shh! None of that! You can’t be late for your party. Wait till you see the banquet we’ve got at the house!”[1]

 

Whom can I trust?

Whom could Karen trust? Not Mr. Cool!And now Karen was overwhelmingly impressed with the unconditional love of her whole family. She could trust them. They were still there for her in spite of all she had done. One of the topics in WIN! Wellness Homes of Hope and Healthis“crooked thinking.” Karen believed she was thinking straight when she ran away to Detroit, but a few months in the University of Hard Knocks made her re-evaluate her situation.

 

 

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Whom can I Trust?

Myself? Do I have the answers for life’s greatest problems? Humanism? Can I trust human opinion when the crisis hits?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Whom could Karen trust? What/whom can I trust? Can I trust myself? Do I have the answers within me for life’s greatest problems? Can I rely on human opinion when a crisis hits? Can I trust others for help? Is there some power from above that will never fail me?

 

 

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Case study of a man who after 38 years found Someone he could TRUST

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The crippled manlies waitingby the Pool of Bethesda, where his friends have brought him. He has been coming to this same place for thirty-eight years, hoping that when the waters ripple, someone would be there to help him be the first one in, so that he could be healed. But there was no one to help him. Having been continually disappointed in the past, he is lying on his straw mat. Then one day he looks up and sees a tender, compassionate face bending over him and hears an almost incredible question: “Do you want to be made well—to be whole?” Sadly he responds as he looks up at this unknown Speaker, “There is no one to help me get well.” Then Jesus speaks gently with a tender smile, “Rise, take up your bed and walk. Roll up your mat and go home.”[2]

 

The manis ready to be healed and doesn’t even question Jesus. He trusts the command. Instantly “every nerve and muscle thrills with new life, and healthful action comes to his crippled limbs.. . . Springing to his feet, he finds himself an active man.”[3] The crippled man is no longer crippled! He can walk! He can jump! He rejoices in his newfound powers. Joy floods his heart as he hastily makes his way to share the good news with his astonished family.

 

The crippled man trusted. He believed. He took action. He willed to get up, and he did get up, and he did walk. Jesus spoke directly to the man’s will. “Can you trust Me?” Ultimate trust is a transaction in which, through a sovereign act of the will, we place our lives unreservedly into the hands of our Creator and our Redeemer.

 

What if the man had doubted that Jesus would heal him? What if he had said, “Well, heal me first, and then I’ll try to get up”? This man fully trusted and was fully healed.

 

It is interesting that Jesus often said to those He healed, “Your faith has made you well. Go in peace, and be healed of your affliction.”[4]

 

If you are suffering some health problem, is that the request of your heart?

Are you saying, “That’s what I want.Fullhealing. I want to be made whole!”

 

Trust—what is it?APPROPRIATE BULLETS

 

 

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Trust Is a Measure of Relationship

At the heart of relationship is TRUST. The paralytic trusted Jesus, and his life was changed. He put his health in the hands of the Great Physician.

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  1. Trust is at the heart of relationship. Trust is a measure of relationship.
  2. In order to fully trust, we need to put away anything that blocks that relationship.

 

The crippled man at the Pool of Bethesda trusted Jesus, and his life changed. He put his health in the hands of the Great Physician. We too can put our health concerns in the hands of Jesus.

 

How to foster a trusting relationship with God

 

 

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Learning How to Trust through the Art of PRAYER

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1. Throughprayer.Apart from the book of Psalms, which is a prayerbook all its own, more than 650 prayers are recorded in the Bible. Out of these, 450 received recorded answers. The remaining 200 are valid prayers that were probably answered, but no record is given. Among them, however, we find examples that violated the principles of valid prayer, such as the prayers of Balaam,[5]who prayed that he could die the death of the righteous, but his life showed that he did not want to live the life of the righteous.The duplicity of his life made it impossible for God to answer his prayer.

 

Seven out of ten scriptural prayers were directly answered, most of them immediately.If God answered so many prayers in ancient times, do you think He will answer the sincere prayers of His children today?[6]We too can claim promises in our lives while we are participants in God’s plan. The most powerful kind of prayer claims God’s promises because He is trustworthy.

 

 

 

 

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We need to cooperate with our prayers.

 

2. Through reading the Bible and claiming its promises.The Bible is full of promises that we can trust today.Schoolteacher Everett R. Storms of Kitchener, Ontario, Canada, during his twenty-seventh reading of the Bible, tallied the promises. It took him a year and a half. He found 7,487 promises of God to man.[7]

 

David, the writer of the Psalms, was number one on King Saul’s list of most wanted fugitives. Chased by hundreds of soldiers, David’s only hope of survival was claiming God’s promises. He constantly quoted thepromises and composed music to help himself cope with life. He was just like we are, always in need of divine help. David wrote, “Your promises have been thoroughly tested, and your servant loves them.”[8]

 

 

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We can TRUST BIBLE PROMISES

The Bible Is Full of Promises

“Your promises have been thoroughly tested, and your servant loves them.” Psalm 119:140, NIV

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Other encouraging Bible promises include:

 

“My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, for they will prolong your life many years and bring you prosperity.”[9]

 

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”[10]

 

In other words, there is nothing too difficult for God. He has thousands of ways to help us. With His dynamite power,He is able to do anything and to accomplish all He sets out to do. Above all, He will give us His peace in this troubled world. It is a peace which surpasses all human understanding. Our loving God has indescribable, incredible, extraordinary means for meeting our desires and needs, if we make known our requests to Him.

  • There is no limit to God’s power
  • There is no limit to what God can do for me
  • There is no limit to what God can do through me for others.

 

Do these promises give you hope? They do for millions who go to God daily with big financial, health, and family concerns. Our Creator is worthy of our trust. We can count on Him.

 

So these factors—prayer, studying the Bible, and claiming Bible promises—help us to establish and maintain a living relationship, a personal friendship with God. We get better acquainted with God by talking with Him in prayer and by listening to Him speak to us in the Bible.

 

Relationship between prayer and health outcomes?

 

 

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Harvard professor Herbert Benson researched the clinical effects of Prayer

He found that prayer . . .

ŸSlows down one’s metabolism

Ÿ Amplifies brain-wave frequency

Ÿ Reduces blood pressure

 

Benson concluded that other clinical effects of prayer are:

  • reduces the rate of breathing
  • causes feelings of internal calm
  • and improves general health.[11]

 

Over the past few years, many researchers have investigated the relationship between intercessory prayer and health outcomes. Do people heal better when other people they don’t even know are praying for them? Some have marshaled evidence indicating that people who were prayed for when undergoing coronary procedures had a better survival rate than those who were not prayed for. Other research indicated that there was no difference.

 

Perhaps we could consider the possibility that the two sides in this controversy may be missing the most important considerations. Is it valid prayer when we pray for healing but our lifestyle shows no intention to follow the principles of health that God has taught us in Scripture? How about the principle, “Therefore whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God”[12]?

 

Trust in God impacts lifestyle

When our lifestyle harmonizes with our prayers, then the physical cooperates with the spiritual, emotional, and relational powers in our healing.

 

What would you think of a case where a man asks God for physical healing from a sexually transmitted disease, yet he continuesto buy pornographic material and to visit prostitutes? Would God be honored by answering his prayers? We need to do our part in cooperating with healing agencies.

 

What would you think of a case where a woman asks her friends to pray for her healing from diabetes, yet she continues to consume large amounts of sugar and fats and is grossly overweight? Could it be that her prayer would be strengthened if she prayed that God would help her with her lifestyle so she could avoid diabetic complications? She could pray, “Lord, give me strength to eat and do what is best for me and help me with my diabetic problem.”

 

Dr. Brian Schwartz, a cardiologist, tells the story of a motorcyclist who came to his office to be checked out for chest pains. He weighed 280 pounds and had many risk factors: he smoked, his blood lipids were high, his blood pressure was high, and of course he was grossly overweight. As was his custom, after the medical evaluation, the doctor offered to pray for the patient. He commended him to Jesus, the Great Physician, but before he left the office, he told the patient that he could cooperate with God by living a healthy lifestyle, free from smoking, fatty meats, and empty calories. Eight months later Dr. Schwartz and his wife were taking a tour of new homes, when whom should they meet but this patient, who was the tour guide. At first they did not recognize him. He had lost a hundred pounds and looked trim. The man announced to the group of some thirty people, “This is the doctor who turned my life around. Now I don’t smoke. It’s because he prayed for me. He changed my life!”

 

Are our prayers always answered?

For His children, who are in a relationship with Him, God always answers prayers for healing. Sometimes there is immediate physical healing, and sometimes healing comes slowly. Often prayer brings us emotional and spiritual healing, which God sees is our greater need. For some individuals, physical healing will come on the day when Jesus returns to take His loved ones home to heaven. We can always trust Jesus to answer us. But we need to cooperate with our prayers by doing our part.

 

Trusting God to meet our greatest need

We need to trust Someone who is always there to help us. We cannot always trust in the police; they may arrive too late. We cannot always trust in burglar alarms; they can goout of order. We can’t always trust in armies and navies; they are subject to defeat. We cannot trust in our own strength; it may diminish. We need a trust that the devil cannot disturb, that jealousy cannot jar, that death cannot deny, that sickness cannot subdue. We need trust that transcends human understanding. God needed no help in creation, no help in making available our redemption. He liberates our souls and asks us to live out His love within us. Do you want Someone like this to trust? Just tell God that you do.

 

We have a heavenly Father who gives us irrefutable evidence that He loves us and wants to meet our needs, no matter what. He met our needs on Calvary. He so loved us that He gave all heaven for us—His only Son. He meets our needs of forgiveness and reconciliation. God meets our need to experience emotional healing.Finally, He meets our needs for wholeness and wellness. The Bible says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on our own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”[13]

 

Let’s go back to the teenager from Traverse City. Karen’s problem was that she believed lies. She believed the lie that her father really didn’t have her best good at heart. She believed the lie that if she could do whatever she wanted, she would be happy. She believed the string of lies Mr. Cool told her to trap her into prostitution.

 

A world of lies and crooked thinking

 

 

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WE LIVE IN A WORLD OF LIES

·    LIE—The Secret of Happiness is Trust Yourself

·    LIES about God

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One of the big human problems is that we live in a world of lies.Lies like, You’re no good.Lies like, Do whatever you want, and it will make you happy.This is crooked thinking. Millions of people believe lies. The self-help psychology books that fillour bookstores tell us that all you need to do is to trust yourself.

 

The truth is that bank accounts, jobs, positions, and people can be here today and gone tomorrow. Some believe the lie that they can eat whatever they want, do little or no exercise, take drugs, cheat on their spouses—and still be healthy and happy. That is a lie! That is crooked thinking!

 

Today millions believe lies about God. They believe the lie that God doesn’t love them. They believe the lie that God is responsible for sending them disease. Other millions believe the lie that there is no God.

 

We live in a world of doubt. Up to now, we have been taught to question our trust. Maybe it’s time to question our doubts.

 

God Wants to Make You a WINNER

Have you sometimes shown yourself untrustworthy? Have you trusted someone who is untrustworthy and been heartbroken? God can make you trustworthy, and He can make that someone you love trustworthy too.

 

By trusting in God, you can change negative self-defeating behaviors. You can choose to live a healthful lifestyle. You can be a WINNER! You can be victorious! But you can’t do it on your own. The secret of success is cultivating a trust relationship with God. You can trust God anytime, anywhere. Start today by claiming the promise of Ephesians 3:20, that He “is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think.”

 

 

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A Promise Claimed while in the Hospital with Cancer

“Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in You. In God I have put my trust; I will not fear.” -Psalm 56:3,4

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Millie, co-author of WIN! Wellness Homes of Hope and Health, lay very sick for eighty-threedays in four different hospitals. An orderly in one of the hospitals shared the Bible promise of Psalm 56:3 with her. It says, “When I am afraid, I will trust in You.” She believed and trusted God for healing. Today, ten years later, she is alive and vibrant, full of energy, and can even walk again. She graduated from a wheelchair to a walker to regular walking, usually a mile or two a day. God healed her, and she is extremely thankful. She had hope, trust, and belief, which kept her fighting for life.

 

John, co-author of WIN! Wellness Homes of Hope and Health, while living in South America, went into the Atlantic Ocean and fought against a rip tide for twenty-fiveminutes, frantically trying to save the life of a teenager at a youth camp. His strength ebbing, he was far from land. He committed his own survival, his mission in life, and the salvation of his family into God’s hands, asking in prayer and trusting in divine help. In a flash, God impressed Johnthat he should swim parallel to the beach instead of toward it, going with the rip tide instead of against it. Within less than a minute, he touched bottom on a sand bar and made his way to the beach, where a group of youth had been pleading with tears to God for his safety. Today, he, like his wife Millie, praises God for the gift of life. They have found that God can be trusted, and they thank Him that they have been saved to serve.

 

Armandlivedwith his father and mother in the country of Armenia. His father told him that he would always be there whenever Armandneeded help. One particular day, his father dropped himoff at school and returned home. Then a powerful earthquake hit the city where they lived. Armand’s father ran to the school and found it in total ruins. Locating the area where his son’s classroom had been, he began to dig frantically in the ruins, moving obstructions out of the way.

 

The fire chief arrived and told Armand’s father to stop, since explosions and fires were occurring not far away. The police told him his activities were endangering others and he should leave the job to them. But the father continued to work feverishly, removing broken metal, concrete slabs, and stones. He ignored the “it-can’t-be-done” people and labored thirty-sixhours without stopping.

 

Finally from the rubble he heard Armand’s voice. “I knew you would come, Father, because you told me whenever I needed you, you’d be there.” Armand trusted his father.[14]

 

We, too, have a Father we can implicitly trust. Nothing that we go through is beyond God. The truth is that we can and must rely on God in every situation of life. Sometimes when all is going well, we might be tempted to think that we can get along without God. We should trust Him all the time. But most of all, we need to trust God when we are out of our comfort zone, in the dark valley,when clouds of perplexity and trial surround us. If we trust Him completely, He will always be there, in sunshine or shadow. When we face things that just don’t make sense in human terms, we have a Father who can be trusted. The more senseless life becomes, the greater is our need to trust in our heavenly Father, who will never let us down.

 

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Prayer

Father God, You are trustworthy and faithful. I choose to trust You with my daily battles, for nothing is too difficult for You. Guide me to the promises in Your Word that will give me hope and help when I need them. I desire to fully trust You, for I know You will protect me from my own foolish ways. You are the God of the impossible. I am so thankful that I can trust You. Amen.

 

In God I Trust

Reflect/Discuss

 

 

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Group Discussion

1.   Who can I really trust?  Myself?  Do I have all the answers to life’s greatest problems?  Popular opinion?  Can I trust it when crisis hits?  Riches, possessions, and material wealth?

      Can I . . . Do I . . . Trust God?

 

 

 

 
 

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2.   Proverbs 3:5-6 says “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on you own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

What does this text say to you?

                                                           

 

 

 

 

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      3.  “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you…” Ps. 56:3.   How do you trust in God during a difficult situation? Have you found that God was near in some serious crises and found that trust made a difference?

 

 

Personal Reflections

 

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Personal Reflection

1.   Is there anyone in my past and present life that I know I can trust without reservation?  What experience taught me I could trust them?

 

 

 

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Personal Reflection

2.   Is there anyone in my life that knows they can trust me no matter what happens?  Am I always trustworthy in my dealings with others?

 

 

 

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Personal Reflection

3.  Can I . . . Do I . . . trust God?  Think about it.

 

 

Intentionality

___ I will trust God with my daily life.

___ I will trust His promises, such as “I will bless you and you will be a blessing.”

___ I trust that God is guiding my family, friends, and me. I have prayed and placed all of us into His hands.

 

 

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“TRUST ME”

The End

 



[1]. Adapted from Philip Yancy, What’s So Amazing About Grace? (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1997), 49–51.

[2]. Adapted from John 5:1–9.

[3]. White, The Desire of Ages, 203.

[4]. For example, in Mark 5:34.

[5]. Numbers 23:10.

                [6]. Winston Ferris, Ph.D., Bible Secrets of Answered Prayer, 9, 10.  Unpublished manuscript, 2008. Dr. Ferris defines prayer as a direct interaction between God and man. Of the 650 interaction prayers referred to in Scripture, we have the record of God answering 450 of them positively.  The challenge is, if you know that 7/10 of prayers referred to in the Bible had a positive response from God, how does that change your prayer life?

                [7]. Herbert Lockyer, All the Promises of the Bible; A Unique Compilation and Exposition of Divine Promises in Scripture (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House, 1962), 10.

[8]. Psalm 119:140, NIV.

[9]. Proverbs 3:1–2, NIV.

[10]. Philippians 4:6, 7.

[11]. Herbert Benson, Timeless Healing (New York: Scribner, 1996).

[12]. 1 Corinthians 10:31.

[13]. Proverbs 3:5–6.

[14]. Adapted from Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, Chicken Soup for the Soul—101 Stories to Open the Heart and Rekindle the Spirit (Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1993), 266, 267. This 1989 incident killed more than thirty thousand people in four minutes.

 

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